This article is not about all men, but the majority of men. If you read part 1, you will remember that I explained why women fall deep in love way faster than men. Now it’s time to explain why guys take their sweet-ole-time to finally admit or confess their love to women.
There are a few reasons why men don’t fall in love quickly. One of the reasons is that women give them whatever they want in the early stages of dating, which is called “yes woman.” Often guys pretend to have feelings in the beginning just to get what they want, and once they get it, they’re satisfied until the relationship is over and the woman moves on.
A “yes woman” is completely focused on putting her partner before anything. There is nothing necessarily wrong with that depending on the way you do it. Giving a person everything they want is not a good way of keeping them, because once you have nothing else left to give, they could leave you high and dry. In order to keep someone, you have to accept them for who they are, not for what they have. That’s not love, that controlling. Real love is not materialistic. Real love is spending quality time getting to know each other and accepting a person’s flaws.
A second reason why men can take a long time to fall in love is because a past relationship ended poorly, so when entering a new relationship their mindset is already negative and they are already assuming the worst. This can result in the man becoming insecure, controlling, and jealous. As all of these problems occur in the current relationship, the woman is likely to get fed up and end the relationship. Only after she is gone will the man wake up and realize that his own problems stopped him from loving her.
Guys who get their heart broken have a hard time falling in love with the next person because they still are hurt from the last one. Women who decide to date a guy who has been through a serious heartbreak must be prepared to deal with insecurities, craziness and trust issues. You have to be mentally ready to take an emotional roller coaster trip. He is going to try to throw old characteristics from his last girl onto you. Dealing with somebody with a broken heart, whether male or female, is going to be more complex than you expect.
The last reason men tend to fall in love late is because they like to be puppet masters. They love the thought of a woman being in love with them, but they don’t genuinely love them back. They tend to constantly use and manipulate women to keep them around. Eventually the girlfriend will have had enough and someone else will come into her life and the guy will realize that he lost someone special.
This type of man who is a puppet master loves the idea of a woman being completely engaged in them. They pretend and act as if they love them in return just so the woman won’t leave. Loving someone and loving the idea of someone loving you are completely different things. Until the women realizes her self-worth and acknowledges their man doesn’t love them, the cycle will keep repeating. So ladies, wait. If you’re looking for love from a man like this, don’t even bother or it will be too late when you realize you deserve better.
Love is not an easy thing and never will be. Love is complex and requires effort. Love is not something you can easily get or maintain. It takes dedication and consistency, but if you are with the right person it can be worth it. A lot of people find love in the wrong places, and end up with their heart ripped out of their chest because they either rushed it or waited too long. So men and women, go at your own pace. Don’t let your past dictate your future relationships. Actually take the time to know each other. Build a bond with them. The only way love works is if both sides want the same thing and are ready to put in the work to do it.
